#1342: “Please help me stop people from assuming that my best friend and I...
Like the creative writing workshop advice goes, if one person tells you a piece of feedback about your story, that's just their opinion, but if ten people give you the same note, there's probably...
View Article#1347: “My friend asked me if we could add ‘benefits,’ I still feel weird...
"Good news, I finally persuaded my fiancée to let me sleep with other people, now we can finally act out all my fantasies about you over Zoom!" Whoa, seems sexy!
View Article#1348: “How to tell an ex you’re pregnant when it’s not theirs and not your ex”
Your partner's ex, your partner's friend group, your partner's life choices are your partner's job to manage.
View ArticleIt Came From The Search Terms: November 2021
Somebody typed it into a search engine and ended up here. Challenge accepted!
View Article5 Answers to “That’s Certainly A Question”
Answers to unpublishable questions, like a New Year's cleanse for upsetting letters.
View Article#1361: “I can’t leave that one unrequited love alone.”
Your love and grief are real, even if they're inspired by an inadequate and disappointing source.
View Article#1368: “The ethics of breaking up with someone when you live together and...
If you need to go, go.
View Article#1372: “Help me plant the right boundaries for the future.”
There are a lot of steps between "starting a farm" and "figuring out who gets it after we die."
View Article#1376 Guest Post: “How do I find queer and trans friends and dates my own age?”
A guest post from S. Bear Bergman of Asking Bear about how to make new friends and find date partners. Bear will be answering questions live with the Captain on Sunday May 15, tix at this link:...
View Article#1377: Hosting two families with different conceptions of time.
In which the Party Planning Committee consists of one exhausted pregnant lady trying to please everyone.
View ArticleIt Came From The Search Terms: It’s Gonna Be May
Search strings, snap judgments. Comments are on, for a change!
View Article#1378: “I want to be her guard dog, but I’m more of a thunder-vest wearing...
When in doubt, remove pressure and think of learning a new skill as "practice." Content Note: Brief mention of kink in the question. If you're a child and/or the concept of D/s relationships irks you,...
View ArticleShould you stay or should you go?
Convert "What should I do?" questions to "How will I do the thing I'm most afraid of?" and see how you feel.
View ArticleIt Came From The Search Terms: 33rd of August
It's that time! Sex, breakups, saying no to stuff you don't wanna do, red flags, Darcying
View Article#1384: “Was I stating a boundary, or was I abusing?”
When someone is consistently mean to you, and you say "if you keep being mean to me, we might have to break up," may I humbly suggest that you are not The Problem.
View Article#1385: “My wife says she isn’t cheating. Should I believe her?”
"Is it technically cheating?" vs. "Even if the answer is no, is this the kind of relationship you want?"
View Article#1387: “I’m dating a married man, help!”
Another day, another disappointing man who deserves neither wife nor mistress.
View Article#1390: My wife wants a divorce but I don’t want to go to court.
Think of a lawyer as a divorce expert who takes care of business so you can take care of feelings.
View Article#1392: Doom or Consequences? The Case of The Transmisogynist Missing...
"They bite, and are a total asshole with no home training, but I love them anyway" is for adorable cats you adopt out of the trash, not for friends. And when friends come over, those cats go in a nice...
View Article#1393: “How can I stop other women from hating on me for my happy life?”
Do you want friends, as in autonomous human beings, or do you want an app that provides daily affirmations and asks no questions?
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