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#1257:”How do I navigate the transition between romantic relationship and...
Dear Captain, I had a friend I first met about 15 years ago. We got on amazingly well: mutual friends called us “one mind in two bodies” because our personalities were so similar. We understood each...
View Article#1260: “How to maintain boundaries within stressful family relationships...
Hi Captain, My mother and I have always wanted different frequencies of interaction. After I moved out for university, at a holiday party my mother announced the only gift she ever wanted from me was...
View Article#1263: “I apologized and it made everything weirder. What’s really going on?”
Dear Captain, I’ve looked in the archives for something like this, but I couldn’t find anything. What do you do when you apologize and it seems to upset someone even more? I (she/her) have an ex...
View Article#1264: Quarantine Cohabitation Blues
Hi Captain, (I’M SORRY THIS IS SO LONG I’M SO BAD AT TL;DR’ing) I’ve (she/her, 26) been with my partner “T” (he/him, 29) for close to a year and a half. The first year of our relationship was almost...
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#1265: Guest Post: Lockdown Co-Parenting: Can I Please Get Some Alone Time?...
Hey Captain! I (she/her) really appreciated your response to Miserable In Quarantine. My partner (he/him) and I are fortunately getting along better than ever. It’s nice to remember that we are friends...
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#1270: “My mom has always hated my boyfriend. Now she says it’s because he...
Behind a cut for mention of child abuse, sexual abuse, and abuse from a therapist. See also, bullying about weight and fat-shaming. Basically a bingo card of triggering, problematic shit and a very...
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#1273: “How do I stop making a big deal out of small stuff that turns into...
Hi there, My husband (27M) and I (27F) have been married for 3.5 years and we live in the US. Generally, we click on just about everything major – kids, faith, goals, finances, etc. We have the same...
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#1278: “My partner is pushing me to start a family before I’m ready.”
Dear Captain My fiancé and I were supposed to get married this April but the wedding was postponed until May 2021 due to the pandemic. We are both in our early 30s. He’s always been keen to start a...
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#1279: “My metamour isn’t taking social-distancing precautions and my partner...
Dear Captain, My partner (P) and I (both mid-30s, she/her) are happily engaged, and have been living together for a few years now. Things have been great. We’ve both had a lot of trauma to work...
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It Came From The Search Terms: July 2020
Yes! It is time! Time to treat the search strings people typed in right before they washed up on these blog shores as if they are actual questions! Inside: Mask etiquette, reformed Nice Guy apologies,...
View Article#1284: “I have to see my ex again in a year and it is a constantly ticking...
Sometimes your brain just wants to be obsessed with somebody for a while. Hi Captain, My now ex (he/him), and I (she/her) broke up at the end of May. It was pretty much mutual. He asked if we could...
View Article#1291: “My husband is never, ever sorry.”
If he apologizes he might shatter into a million little pieces, this is Very Serious!
View Article#1297: My friends had a huge falling-out with my wife. Can we ever be friends...
Content note for mention of suicidal ideation, and reminder that roommate fights are for "It's your turn to buy toilet paper," not "It actually oppresses me when your face does that." Dear Captain...
View Article#1301: “This kitchen ain’t big enough for the both of us.”
"You're chopping the peppers wrong," or, when cooking together stops being a fun date-night activity.
View Article#1312: Did I make the wrong decision? And–why can’t I listen to everyone...
I believe the classic phrase is "don't set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm."
View Article#1314: “I put my emotions in the fridge and went away for a few years and now...
Numbness can be a survival skill, but the feeling's gotta come back sometime.
View Article#1316: “I finally have a friend and my wife is jealous.”
Feelings (jealousy, discomfort, biphobia) clean-up in Aisle 7.
View Article#1320: “How to be fair to a co-habiting ex who dumped me, but is acting all...
"You dumped me, remember? Kindly sigh into someone else's moving boxes."
View Article#1325-26: Confidential To The Married Couple Who Both Wrote To Me About Your...
Two spouses wrote to me and I don't want to post the letters full of painful details but I also could not leave it alone.
View Article#1329: “Is this ever going to work out in my favor?”
When someone says "I don't have romantic feelings for you," take them at their word.
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